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Leona



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PostPosted: July 23, 2004 4:55 PM    Post subject: worry Reply with quote

Worry

Is there a magic cutoff period when
offspring become accountable for their own
actions? Is there a wonderful moment when
parents can become detached spectators in
the lives of their children and shrug, "It's
their life," and feel nothing?

When I was in my twenties, I stood in a hospital
corridor waiting for doctors to put a few
stitches in my son's head. I asked, "When do
you stop worrying?" The nurse said,
"When they get out of the accident stage." My
mother just smiled faintly and said nothing.

When I was in my thirties, I sat on a little
chair in a classroom and heard how one of my
children talked incessantly, disrupted the class,
and was headed for a career making
license plates. As if to read my mind, a teacher
said, "Don't worry, they all go through
this stage and then you can sit back, relax and
enjoy them." My mother just smiled
faintly and said nothing.

When I was in my forties, I spent a lifetime
waiting for the phone to ring, the cars to come
home, the front door to open. A friend said,
"They're trying to find themselves. Don't
worry, in a few years, you can stop worrying.
They'll be adults." My mother just smiled
faintly and said nothing.

By the time I was 50, I was sick & tired of being
vulnerable. I was still worrying over my
children, but there was a new wrinkle there
was nothing I could do about it. My
mother just smiled faintly and said nothing. I
continued to anguish over their failures, be
tormented by their frustrations and absorbed in
their disappointments.

My friends said that when my kids got married I
could stop worrying and lead my own
life. I wanted to believe that, but I was
haunted by my mother's warm smile and her
occasional, "You look pale. Are you all right?
Call me the minute you get home. Are
you depressed about something?"

Can it be that parents are sentenced to a
lifetime of worry? Is concern for one another
handed down like a torch to blaze the trail of
human frailties and the fears of the
unknown? Is concern a curse or is it a virtue
that elevates us to the highest form of life?

One of my children became quite irritable
recently, saying to me, "Where were you? I've
been calling for 3 days, and no one answered.
I was worried." I smiled a warm smile.
The torch has been passed.

PASS IT ON TO OTHER PARENTS
(and also to your children. That's the fun part.)
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PostPosted: July 23, 2004 6:20 PM    Post subject: Reply with quote

Leona, thanks for posting this. I enjoyed it. Smile
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PostPosted: July 25, 2004 3:06 PM    Post subject: Reply with quote

Dear Leona,

Thanks for "Worry." As a mother, I could relate to every word. However, another problem lifts it's head; I now also worry about our grandchildren. Guess it just goes with the territory and will be with us forever.

Sure is great to know that others go through it too. There's comfort in numbers.


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PostPosted: July 25, 2004 4:23 PM    Post subject: Reply with quote

Oh Jo, did you have to bring up the grandchildren. He's only two!
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PostPosted: July 25, 2004 8:39 PM    Post subject: Reply with quote

Hi Tonya,

Sorry to bring up grandchildren. Yours is two -- the wonderful age when they rely upon us for all their needs. Ours are 18, 15, 14 and 12 - all girls. They're fantastic young people but I still worry. The eldest will leave for college the middle of next month so I won't know what she's doing or where she is so can't really worry about her. The other three will take up enough worry time.

They all laugh at Grandma because I always want to know what time they're due home so I know what time to begin worrying. No, I don't live with them, it's just sort of a grandma joke.

Enjoy that little one. They grow up so fast it's amazing.

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