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bwick18
Quit Date: -
Posts: 580 Location: Florida
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Posted: October 30, 2004 10:03 PM Post subject: that was a close one |
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Went to the video store with my boys to get some scary flicks for after they go to bed and got some subway for dinner. On the way home I almost stopped to get a pack of smokes just because. I just want one. I guess if they sold just one I would have stopped. Where did that come from? Why do I feel so weak so far into my quit. Thought I was supposed to get stronger. I still am contemplating the store as I type. This pisses me off. Maybe Halloween and fall are big triggers for me. Something euphoric about the whole deal and sadly smoking was sometimes euphoric for me as well. Well thanks for hearing me out, going to eat and I think I will be ok. _________________
Barb
After the rain comes the rainbow- I will get my rainbow back |
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Tammy
Quit Date: February 16, 2004
Posts: 2565 Location: Florida
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Posted: October 30, 2004 10:58 PM Post subject: |
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Don't do it Barb. You will have huge regrets. Maybe you are right that fall and halloween are triggers. So see the triggers for what they are and don't fixate on the cigarettes. Take some long deep breathes and pull out your reason to quit list. Stay strong youv'e come to far to blow it now. _________________
Tammy
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Cowgirl UP!
Quit Date: July 26, 2004
Posts: 5029 Location: Ala
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Posted: October 30, 2004 11:31 PM Post subject: |
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Barb,
Please do not go to the store...you know you do not want to really do that ...it is trying to get in your head and tell you just one...one today, one tomorrow one the next and you know it goes on and on....there is no such thing as just one....drink you a big glass of ice water or drink some juice and suck on some hard candy....turn on some music and dance if you have to...hey it is halloween so no one will think anything of it...go ahead dance on out in the front yard and over to the neighbors....ring the bell and pull them outside for some line dances...tango..rumba, or whatever cranks your tractor. ..just get up girl and get a move on...but no stores!!!!
Tomorrow, you can thank me and blame it on the moon!
Kay _________________
All with a little help from my friends, COWGIRL UP |
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ms_tapestry
Quit Date: October 21, 2009
Posts: 2574 Location: Seminole, TX
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Posted: October 31, 2004 6:35 AM Post subject: |
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Hi Barb, glad you posted instead of buying. I have had some pretty strong craves these last couple of weeks too. They might very well be seasonal. You got some great advice here. Face the crave, know it for what it is, laugh in the face of and move on. It is amazing to me that you have been through so much this summer with all the hurricanes and have been so strong and yet the act of renting movies can set off a trigger. This just goes to show that we do indeed have to keep our guard up. You are an inspiration to me!
I really like the idea of the neighborhood line dancing. Today would be a perfect day for getting something like that going! _________________
Tonya
You must do the very thing you think you cannot do.
~ Eleanor Roosevelt |
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terryg
Quit Date: May 13, 2004
Posts: 177 Location: washington
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Posted: October 31, 2004 11:08 AM Post subject: |
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Hi Barb,
How'd you do last night, I hope you didnt give in to ol .
How are you feeling today? I hope better is the answer. It is weird how all of a sudden we get those crazy cravings. We've all been there that's for sure.
Stay strong, you can fight it.
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kevin Site Admin
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Posts: 9538 Location: cincinnati, oh
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Posted: October 31, 2004 11:12 AM Post subject: |
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sometimes, the littlest thing can trigger us into a crave; sometimes, it's nothing at all. the fact is, we're addicts, and addicts experience craves; the reason doesn't really matter, as long as we recognize one thing:
there's no such thing as an irresistible crave.
did you ever take a long flight as a smoker in the last 20 years or so? were you ever in the hospital for any length of time while you were a smoker? were you ever in any situation where you couldn't smoke for an extended period of time while you were a smoker? what happened when you got a crave? you couldn't feed it; what happened to it?
it went away. all by itself.
you didn't have to resist it, you didn't have to fight it, you didn't have to do anything special about it at all; you just experienced it, accepted that it was happening and that you couldn't feed it, and went on with whatever you were doing when it started.
and it went away. all by itself.
back then, it was something outside of yourself that didn't allow you to feed the crave. now, it's something much stronger, something inside yourself that won't allow you to feed the crave: the knowledge that there is no such thing as just one. you can't take one back; you have to take them all back. and, while smoking may have "sometimes been euphoric" for you, most of the time, it was a gigantic pain in the ass, and you felt like crap because you were doing it, and you wished so hard that you could stop...
do you really want all that back?
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didn't think so. _________________
keep choosing life!
kevin
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bwick18
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Posts: 580 Location: Florida
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Posted: October 31, 2004 6:38 PM Post subject: |
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Thanks for your replys yall. Pretty much after I ranted last night I felt a bit better, It was just one of the strongest most out of the blue craves I have had yet. Also have fought with myself and not felt so strong for the past month. I know if i keep holding on I will feel better and stronger when this passes. You guys are so great, I can't wait to meet you all if we really do get to have the get together. _________________
Barb
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Marigrrl
Quit Date: December 1, 2010
Posts: 894 Location: New York
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Posted: October 31, 2004 9:43 PM Post subject: |
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its funny you say that, b/c as i get further and further away from my quit date, my thoughts sometimes creep up and I forget how bad smoking is. Its weird. At first all your positive thoughts are very fresh, all your research is in your mind, all the positive talks and why you want to quit. Along the way sometimes we forget all those things, and when we forget, we get weak to those thoughts. I have had those thoughts recently at the most random times, and its sooo stupid because I know its not a pyhsical craving, its a mental thing. So i just try to push it out, because i convince myself its "fake". Hang in there! We all have our triggers, just keep your reasons of quitting and your first week, close to you, use that as your weapon! Keep kicking ash!
mariko _________________
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Mindy
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Posted: October 31, 2004 10:42 PM Post subject: |
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Barb,
I had very similar feelings this past week..... I have a post somewhere about it........ the thought of 'just one' kept running through my head too. I am still to this day having those thoughts. I even mentioned to my husband yesterday that I wanted just one cigarette.....he has NEVER smoked and he told me "Mindy--you can't have just one...You'd want a thousand more". And it's so true.
You'll make it!!
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law_girl_1969
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Posts: 626 Location: Freeburg, Illinois
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Posted: November 1, 2004 9:58 AM Post subject: |
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Something must be in the air...these crazy thoughts went through my head OFTEN this past week..
- a horrible test that I THOUGHT I had prepared for...
- a 14-year-old who is slowly becoming someone I don't know anymore (don't they all at some point??)
- a Halloween party in unusually mild weather, sitting outside by a bonfire, having a few cocktails...
Just one sounded like the answer for all of these...and I argued with myself all week.
I really thought by now that wouldn't be happening (almost 10 months!!!!) but more and more I realize the true extent of addiction. An alcholic can't go back and have "just one", neither can the heroine addict...if they could, or WE could....we never would have been in the situation we were in before we chose life.
Know that you are not alone and you did the right thing posting about it. I'm always afraid to scare newbies, but I think we can all learn from eachother. Us "veterans" are sometimes disconnected from those early days and it's good to hear from newbies in the throws of withdrawals so we can, through supporting them, reinforce our reasons for quitting as well. And the newbies need to know that there is no "magic" time where life as a non-smoker is perfect. Life continues to happen, and for many of us, the one way we trained ourselves to deal with everything in life is still going to enter our minds...
My, I've rambled _________________
Lynn
"There are those who think they can and those who think they can't and they are both right." Henry Ford |
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Kerry
Quit Date: May 4, 2004
Posts: 862 Location: Illinois
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Posted: November 1, 2004 1:06 PM Post subject: |
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Kevin is sooo right everyone. Last night was hard for me too. My first non-smoking Halloween since I was fourteen. And it is getting colder, another trigger. But you know what? It's November 1st a nd I survived it. I'm not sad. I'm not disappointed that I didn't smoke. I feel just fine. Pretend like you live in a non-smoking neighborhood;the crave WILL go away. Yesterday my aunt died of mouth cancer. It was a horrible way to go. Keep thinking about that. Do whatever it takes. Just do it. Kerry |
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