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Cowgirl UP!



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PostPosted: December 22, 2004 12:46 AM    Post subject: Getting on with it! Reply with quote

I don't know about the rest of you but this has been a very interesting, stressful, intriguing season! To think, that I have pulled this off without the smokes is unbelievable, to know I did it without killing someone is fantastic!

I have never learned so much in such a short period of time in my life...mainly, I have learned I have not had much of a life due to the addiction but am thankful to know that humans have the ability to change.

I have tried to get everything done along with going to the doctor with my daughter...I like to rest up the week before with just some small baking etc going on....but.....with my daughter quitting smoking and on day 3 it has been anything but my usual peaceful time Laughing Laughing Laughing Drink water I keep telling her but she would rather call and keep me on the phone until it passes Confused Post I tell her but she brings me the grandson to take for a walk. Rolling Eyes This has been an experience....one I am proud to say I am handling better than I ever would have as a smoker...I would have locked my doors or thrown a fit...only because I would be more stressed than I am now.......oh well live and learn and beat it into the heads of your offspring...... Laughing Laughing
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ms_tapestry



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Location: Seminole, TX

PostPosted: December 22, 2004 6:22 AM    Post subject: Reply with quote

My first thought was, thank goodness y'all didn't Quit the same day! Whew, wouldn't that have been a fun time! They begin changing our lives the moment they come into the world and even though we set them free and push them out of the nest they just keep coming back! Laughing Kay, you are handling it all with your usual grace and style. I am proud of you! Cool
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PostPosted: December 22, 2004 7:56 AM    Post subject: Reply with quote

Kay,

You have the patience of a saint. Very Happy They do like to hang on the shirt tails during hard times. But in this case, it is for the greatest reason!!!! Just think, you and your family are getting the best Christmas gift ever. The gift of life. She may keep you on the phone time and time again, but think of the bond and gift you are giving her....you are giving her your undying devotion and love. That's worth more than any cookies baked, or gifts bought. The gift of love.

Sending you a *******BIG HUG*******

Merry Christmas
Deb
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Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creature; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come. 2 Corn 5:17 NASB
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PostPosted: December 22, 2004 9:08 AM    Post subject: Reply with quote

Kay ~

You are such a wonderful mother and supporter, but please keep those boundaries! We need you sane and whole!!!! Cool

It is wonderful to know that "humans have the ability to change". Today I plan on changing into someone who just loves Christmas! LoL!!! Rolling Eyes Wink
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PostPosted: December 22, 2004 12:15 PM    Post subject: Reply with quote

Kay, you're doing a wonderful thing for your daughter. Someday she's really going to thank you for helping strengthen her quit. For the time being, just bite your tongue and love her lots. (Frankly, I've bitten my tongue so much it's constantly bruised.) Children are a wonderful blessing and sometimes a constant pain in the _______. However, they bring so much joy, the good times outweigh the bad. ENJOY!
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Cowgirl UP!



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PostPosted: December 22, 2004 6:37 PM    Post subject: Reply with quote

Embarassed I just talked with my daughter again.......the more we talked the more agitated I became...so I do not think I am helping her right now....I keep coming out from under this damn smokescreen and I am getting really angry at all I have put up with......
Kay
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PostPosted: December 22, 2004 8:37 PM    Post subject: Reply with quote

Kay look after yourself first and foremost. Helping your daughter is great but it might just be a tad soon to put yourself in the line of fire as your emotions might not be 100% yet. I'd tend to mention that to her and explain you don't want to jeopardize her QUIT because of something you might snap at when you are still working on yours. That does not mean to tell her not to call just that maybe she needs to take a bit more responsibility for her QUIT. I've noted with kids that they tend to try to hand off their problems to the parent in the hopes we can work some sort of miracle. That works for money problems but really doesn't do much for affairs of the heart nor lifestyle changes. What about your hubby is it possible for him to help out with this one as mine was a Godsend when the daughter took off and I couldn't deal with her.
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PostPosted: December 22, 2004 10:00 PM    Post subject: Reply with quote

Kay I agree with Melody, This very same thing happened to me and my daughter durning my quit. Usually we communicate quite well, but I was out of sorts and so was she, dealing with her own quit. The only thing we could do was to agree to disagree and work our own quits, The most important thing right now is you protecting your precious quit.
Thoughts are with you,

Pam
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PostPosted: December 22, 2004 10:25 PM    Post subject: Reply with quote

Thanks for all the advice and you know I will try to implement it....I go back to my internist on the 3rd of Jan and I am asking why I still feel so tired and worn out........

My daughter has called twice since the earlier call just telling me about the grandkids or asking a question....making sure Mom is ok I guess....she has come so far.....today she said "You are really having a bad day aren't you"...hey, thank goodness someone has begun to notice that Confused Confused Laughing
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