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Imagen27
Quit Date: July 12, 2005
Posts: 234 Location: Washington State
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Posted: August 11, 2005 2:01 PM Post subject: My Divorce |
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I just registered my husband and I for the parenting seminar we have to take before the entry of the final papers. Washington made it mandatory for everyone in '97 apparently. I've been a parent for 11 years, and they want to make me take a class about being a parent before I can get divorced?? Cooky if you ask me...
Anyway, the reality is starting to sink in... Our divorce is almost final... The end of "us". Separating is one thing... Finalizing the end of your lives together is another...
Where do I go from there? 3 kids.. No Husband...
I know one place I WONT be going....
To the smoke shop....You can take that to the bank...
For those that do, Pray for me... Pray for strength to make it through this, aside from the cigarettes I mean.. Pray for strength that I will be strong enough to help my girls through this...
For those that dont pray...Think of me on Monday, as I take the final step at ending my marriage..
~Im _________________
Imagen-29 (The ever so "flexible willow")
3 wonderful girls, 12, 10 and 3 |
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kevin Site Admin
Quit Date: -
Posts: 9538 Location: cincinnati, oh
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Posted: August 11, 2005 2:41 PM Post subject: |
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you're going to be fine, im, and so will the girls. ideally, we'd have everything in our lives turn out just the way we wanted it to, but we live in the real world, where things don't always go the way we thought they would. i firmly believe that things always happen for the best, whether we understand it at the time or not: there's a reason all this is happening in your life right now, and some day, you'll look back and see why it was the best thing that could've happened for you, even though it may feel like the worst thing right now. until then, hang in there, and never doubt that you can do anything you choose to do. _________________
keep choosing life!
kevin
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kannprint
Quit Date: April 10, 2004
Posts: 4988 Location: St. Louis, MO
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Posted: August 11, 2005 4:52 PM Post subject: |
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Yes, im, I'll pray for you and your girls but I do agree with Kevin. You're going to be fine. The mere fact that you're concerned about your children says a lot.
Our daughter went through a divorce when our granddaughters were 10 and 6. God was with her as He is with you. She's re-married to a wonderful man who is a much better Dad to her girls than their biological father ever could have been.
We don't always know just what He has in mind for us but we do know that He's always with us. Yes, im, I'll pray for you and your girls. _________________
LIVE WELL, LAUGH OFTEN, LOVE MUCH.
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ms_tapestry
Quit Date: October 21, 2009
Posts: 2574 Location: Seminole, TX
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Posted: August 11, 2005 5:35 PM Post subject: |
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My thoughts and prayers are with you as you begin a new life of freedom. _________________
Tonya
You must do the very thing you think you cannot do.
~ Eleanor Roosevelt |
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Barbara K.
Quit Date: December 23, 2004
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Posted: August 11, 2005 6:47 PM Post subject: |
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Hi Im,
You and your girls will be in my thoughts and prayers.
Blessings, _________________
Obstacles don't have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don't turn arouind and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it.
Blessings,
Barbara K. |
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swaneem
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Posts: 1298 Location: Arizona
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Posted: August 11, 2005 6:52 PM Post subject: |
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Holding you in my thoughts.
Donna |
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Leona
Quit Date: June 1, 2017
Posts: 1838 Location: Alpena, Michigan
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Posted: August 11, 2005 8:22 PM Post subject: |
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Im,
It won't be an easy job to raise kids without your husband around but it is dooable. I have been where you are now and my son just got married and when Igot divorced he was 10 and my daughter was 3 He is now 23 with a wife and job and she is 16 and as obnoxious as you can get but she is becoming a young woman.
It is going to be one of the hardest things you have to do next to your divorce but so rewarding because you get to do it YOURSELF. Take pride in your accomplishements. The first accomplishment I did was putting up a paper towel rack and seeing as Ihad never been alowed to do this before it was a matter of HEY I DID IT you should of heard me crow.
Yes you can do this. And yes you and your girls will be in my thoughts and prayers. _________________
Quiting smoking is like a fine wine ......
It just gets better with age. |
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Mary Dude
Quit Date: June 15, 2004
Posts: 4803 Location: Pittsburgh, PA
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Posted: August 11, 2005 9:25 PM Post subject: |
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Im - You and the girls will be in my prayers. If the class is focuses on "divorced" parenting skills maybe its worthwhile...
Being a single mom is probably the hardest job in the world - but I know you are up to the challenges. If you realized your marriage was so bad that you had to do something about it...you'll find the wisdom, strength and courage to make single life happy for you and for the girls. A divorced but happy parent is better than a unhappy but still married parent.
Way to stick with your quit! You are doing great! _________________
Mary D.
Smoke-free one day at a time!
Worry doesn't help tomorrow's troubles, but it does ruin today's happiness! |
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Seabrez
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Posted: August 11, 2005 10:56 PM Post subject: |
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Ima,
You'll be in my prayers!!!
Just know that He is with you and will never leave you!! Just pray for wisdom and He'll provide it.
Be strong girl!!! The future may be cloudy right now, but remember with the clouds come a rainbow and a silver lining!
Huge, Huge, Teddy Bear Hug ((((((((IMA))))))) _________________
Living in Freedom
Deb
Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creature; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come. 2 Corn 5:17 NASB |
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mtwilsonranch
Quit Date: January 20, 2006
Posts: 1863 Location: nevada
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Posted: August 11, 2005 11:31 PM Post subject: |
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Img,
I also stood where you are, 30 years ago, 3 children No husband. I found that as I gently closed one door, another door was opened. We know not what the future holds, so we live each day as it comes, with challenges, promises, and strength.
Trust in you...........
My thoughts and prayers will be with you Monday..
Pam _________________
Right Now, this minute, this hour, this day, I choose not to feed my addiction.... |
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Cowgirl UP!
Quit Date: July 26, 2004
Posts: 5029 Location: Ala
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Posted: August 12, 2005 2:06 PM Post subject: |
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You will have a different life...one that is busy and challenging but you will do fine....you have already shown your girls how strong you are in one making it without Daddy and two not smoking...go ahead follow the rest of your dreams.
Kay _________________
All with a little help from my friends, COWGIRL UP |
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Gentle Breeze
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Posted: August 13, 2005 11:11 PM Post subject: |
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Im,
You are smart and will do fine.
I only have a little baby girl and not three daughters like you.
I have no husband, no mother and know no father.
No Matter!
What really counts is you (and me)!
That means you (and me must be strong). _________________
Gentle Breeze
Many years and some days healing and happy - by choice |
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Fightn4life
Quit Date: October 23, 2003
Posts: 1573 Location: Loysburg, PA
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Posted: August 15, 2005 4:56 AM Post subject: |
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My prayers are with you. The Lord will help you find your way. I was a divorced mother of three for ten years after my 15-year marriage.
Not always easy but we as single parents can do this and hubby is proof as well, he raised his five children when their mom abandoned them.
We met after years of both of us struggling alone…then our families merged and still we struggled. I believe we are stronger in spite of all we endured. As will you be.
You are in my heart and prayers.
Always remember there are angels in many forms among us.
Sandyz
free for 662 days! _________________
"Keep your heart open to dreams. For as long as there's a dream, there is hope, and as long as there is hope, there is joy in living."
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