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Deb
Quit Date: February 5, 2010
Posts: 967 Location: North Carolina (Originally New York)
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Posted: September 3, 2005 12:35 PM Post subject: Totally ANNOYED! |
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Hey All,
Well today makes one week for me. I am using the patch and I having some good and bad days. Today though, I talked on the phone with a freind who made me furious.
I told her that I have quit and when I mentioned, that I am using the patch she laughed and said, that I hadn't quit at all so, I might as well just keep on smoking. Well, needless to say I went off. This is someone who smokes 2 packs a day and is always claiming that she is going to quit and it will be a cinch for her to do so. I was so let down because to me, I (even though I am using the patch) am not smoking and it's damn hard.
Is she correct? Am I still a smoker even though I haven't had a drag in a week? Maybe I'm dillusional and don't understand what the patch really does. I know that it's putting nic in my system but, it's certainly does not soothe my craves as when I smoked. I know it makes quitting a lot easier because without (cold turkey) I don't think, in fact I know I would not be able to do this.
This is someone who is supposed to be a freind...............this freind I don't need at the moment. Maybe when I'm feeling better I will understand what she was trying to say but, right now I'm so pissed.
Sorry to be going on and on but, I guess this section was created for such a rant.
I am going to continue using the patches and don't give a damn what this defines. For now I am not smoking.
If anyone could give me there opinion here I would truly appreciate it. Is the patch really the same as smoking? Am I still a smoker..........it sure as hell don't feel like it to me. The funny thing is that I was so upset when I got off the phone, I actually was looking around for my smokes until (dumb me) I realized omg that's what the whole conversation was about
Ok thanks, just needed to get this off my chest and I feel a lot better now
NOT SMOKING EVER just patching.
Deb |
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kannprint
Quit Date: April 10, 2004
Posts: 4988 Location: St. Louis, MO
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Posted: September 3, 2005 12:52 PM Post subject: |
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Deb, I can fully understand your anger at your "friend." In my opinion, YOU ARE NOT SMOKING!!! I didn't use the patch but many quitters here at woofmang have used them and very successfully, I might add.
When someone attacks you as this woman did, I feel it's jealousy. She really would prefer that you not succeed in quitting because she fears she would never be able to do it.
Sorry, I just became a little disturbed -- didn't mean to spout off. Just keep doing what you're doing. We're all here for you, you know. _________________
LIVE WELL, LAUGH OFTEN, LOVE MUCH.
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Melody
Quit Date: August 19, 2004
Posts: 1103 Location: Ontario
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Posted: September 3, 2005 1:22 PM Post subject: |
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What ever it takes for you to stop filling your lungs full of smoke counts. Your friend sounds like a real spiteful person. She just doesn't want to see you succeed as it leaves her with one less smoking buddy. My friends were a great support hence I use the word friends. Your smoking buddy is not a very good friend at all.IMO You are doing great and a week is a huge accomplishment it is the toughest of them all. _________________
I'm a NON-SMOKER thanks to everyone here |
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kevin Site Admin
Quit Date: -
Posts: 9538 Location: cincinnati, oh
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Posted: September 3, 2005 6:43 PM Post subject: |
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here's a simple test, deb:
are you deliberately sucking poisonous smoke into your lungs? no? then you're not a smoker.
is your "friend" deliberately sucking poisonous smoke into her lungs? yes? then she's a smoker.
millions of people have quit smoking successfully by using the patch. it's your "friend" who's delusional.
but she's not alone...
http://www.woofmang.com/tales/herd_mentality.shtml
keep up the good work! _________________
keep choosing life!
kevin
the zen of the quit |
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ms_tapestry
Quit Date: October 21, 2009
Posts: 2574 Location: Seminole, TX
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Posted: September 3, 2005 7:10 PM Post subject: |
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My vote says you are not a smoker. Many of your "friends" are going to feel threatened by your Quit. Please do not let that sway you. This is the healthiest decision you could make for yourself. You are so worth the effort you are making! Please keep it going! _________________
Tonya
You must do the very thing you think you cannot do.
~ Eleanor Roosevelt |
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mtwilsonranch
Quit Date: January 20, 2006
Posts: 1863 Location: nevada
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Posted: September 3, 2005 7:24 PM Post subject: |
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Hi Deb,
I agree with everyone here..You are not sucking the poison into your lungs.......You are a non smoker
Sometimes our friends see our success as their failure...Like the experiment with the crabs in the bucket, they pull down the few that are trying to escape....
Be so proud of you, you are doing what they cannot.......Keep on keeping this precious quit...
Pam _________________
Right Now, this minute, this hour, this day, I choose not to feed my addiction.... |
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marw
Quit Date: -
Posts: 3634 Location: Chicago, IL
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Posted: September 3, 2005 10:37 PM Post subject: |
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No, you are not a smoker. You are only a smoker if you are inhaling smoke, which you are not! (btw: there are many poisonous chemicals in smoke other than nicotine). Your friend is just jealous. It may be subconscious, but that's what it is. Don't let her rattle you. She is to be pitied. Many smokers and even ex-smokers (unless they used the patch, or when it's been a long time since they quit, they tend to forget) will re-act in strange ways to a person's quit. Just ignore it. You're doing great! _________________
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Cowgirl UP!
Quit Date: July 26, 2004
Posts: 5029 Location: Ala
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Posted: September 3, 2005 11:24 PM Post subject: |
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No, you are not a smoker....you are quitting..one step at a time...alot have been able to quit cold turkey...I was not one of them...but then I tend to get on the down side of depression or other words the mean side...so for others the patch was the safest way for me to quit
Kay _________________
All with a little help from my friends, COWGIRL UP |
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Seabrez
Quit Date: -
Posts: 4458 Location: Gulf Coast
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Posted: September 4, 2005 2:20 AM Post subject: |
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Deb,
Tell this so-called friend to KISS YOUR ROSEY RED CHEEKS...and I don't mean the ones on your face!!!
Eveyone is right...jealousy, feeling threathened, and belittling, may I add. You are NOT a smoker!!! You know I'm a patch person. And I'm proud to say....I'm a non-smoker!!!! And so are you my friend!!!! People are idiots sometimes! Just blow her off....literally! Friends are there to encourage and help....not to tear down and destroy....that's what the devil does!!!
Deb....keep up the great quit you have going!! WTG on getting through hell week! I'm proud of you!!!!
Love and Hugs _________________
Living in Freedom
Deb
Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creature; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come. 2 Corn 5:17 NASB |
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Barbara K.
Quit Date: December 23, 2004
Posts: 5977
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Posted: September 4, 2005 4:33 AM Post subject: |
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Deb,
I would tell your friend whatever you feel like telling her and then backing off from her. If she comes to terms with the situation and realizes how crappy she treated you, and if she's any kind of a friend, she will say she is sorry. If she doesn't, then she's not a good friend.
Blessings, _________________
Obstacles don't have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don't turn arouind and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it.
Blessings,
Barbara K. |
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londa
Quit Date: July 28, 2004
Posts: 2469 Location: new york, USA
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Posted: September 4, 2005 7:28 AM Post subject: |
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"Taming of the tongue"
People say things before thinking...
Deb, you do what YOU have to do to not smoke. IF that means using a patch, then you use it. Everyone is different. Some people find they need to go cold turkey....some use the patch....some gradually wean themselves.
Everyone is different.
This person is probably not that educated in quitting smoking. So she really has not a clue what it is all about.
If she says anything again, just give her one of your big smiles and say your doing just fine! The only smoke that is entering your lungs now is from her cigarette. Always be kind, some people don't know how to handle it when their friends quit. I had troublesome times with my friend down the street. I still call her and ask how she is, even though she never comes down anymore. But I have come to terms with that now.
So you keep using the patch and before long, you'll be patch free. YOU ARE A NON-SMOKER. We will be here for you to encourage you along!
You hang in there! You just went through HELL week!
GOd Bless!
Love, Londa _________________
My name is Londa. I am 57 and I act like I'm 20. I love to laugh and smile. The more the better. Being kind to someone is the best thing you can do. |
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Deb
Quit Date: February 5, 2010
Posts: 967 Location: North Carolina (Originally New York)
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Posted: September 4, 2005 8:47 AM Post subject: Thank's |
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Thanks everyone for the encouraging words. I know is shouldn't let clueless people rattle me but, I'm sort of sensative now if you know what I mean
I don't intend to let the negative sway me so I will continue doing what I need and whatever it takes to stay a non smoker.
Thank's again
Deb |
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