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nichole
Quit Date: April 14, 2007
Posts: 455 Location: So Cal
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Posted: November 17, 2007 12:35 PM Post subject: Having a rough time |
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Today is my family's fake Turkey Day... I am having everyone over to my house. We traditionally get together the Sat before Thanksgiving because the family is so big and it's hard to get everyone together on the actual day...
Anyway, as you may know, I recently lost my cousin to breast cancer. This will be the first time since her death that all of us are together. I have been expecting it to be an emotional time, but also a lot of fun. I have been feeling old poking his head out over the last few days, but I keep putting him back in his place.
Then, early this morning, I got a call from a close friend that her husband was killed in a car accident last night. I am so upset and my heart is breaking for her and her kids. I immediately went into a horrible craving. It feels like I'm back to week #1... I don't intend on giving in.. I know that won't solve anything. But, I can't believe how strongly it came on. I have been feeling so solid in my quit and now I feel like I'm on shaky ground.... _________________
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Seabrez
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Posted: November 17, 2007 2:03 PM Post subject: |
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Nichole
Sweetheart, you do have a strong quit. With all that you have been through lately with the passing of a close family member, the fires, and now the holidays, and then, to back the camel's back the awful news of your friend's husband...you have reached the emotional and stress overload limit the body is able to cope with. In the past we would handle such crisis by smoking. It was an automatic reaction we had built into our lives. Now, you've reached that point, and it's normal that the demon has appeared as a reaction to all this bad stuff happening. It's part of the experiencing everything at least once as a non-smoker that we did as a smoker. With the quit....this is probably the first extreme case of such stress and turmoil, and you need to just live it out withhout smoking. The renewing process. You're facing alot right now. After dinner, and when everyone has gone home, try and take sometime for you to just cry and process everything. You need some down time for yourself.
Wish there was a way to make all this disappear for you. Your heart is probably in so many pieces right now. Take some deep breaths and just take it a moment at a time today.
My heart goes out to you.....
Love Ya {{{{{{Nichole}}}}}} _________________
Living in Freedom
Deb
Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creature; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come. 2 Corn 5:17 NASB |
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nichole
Quit Date: April 14, 2007
Posts: 455 Location: So Cal
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Posted: November 17, 2007 2:42 PM Post subject: |
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Thanks, Deb... I really appreciate the kind words! I came here instead of smoking. I know I will get through this without a puff... Thanks again! _________________
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kannprint
Quit Date: April 10, 2004
Posts: 4988 Location: St. Louis, MO
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Posted: November 17, 2007 6:48 PM Post subject: |
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What a terrible blow, Michole. I can imagine how old decided that this was a good time to raise his ugly head. I hope having your family around you today at your "fake" Thanksgiving celebration helped you get through this shock of the loss of a friend.
You're in my thoughts and prayers, Nichole. _________________
LIVE WELL, LAUGH OFTEN, LOVE MUCH.
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Mary Dude
Quit Date: June 15, 2004
Posts: 4803 Location: Pittsburgh, PA
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Posted: November 17, 2007 9:06 PM Post subject: |
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Good job Nichole! Keep kicking old nicodemon to the curb where he belongs. Remind yourself often - smoking never makes anything better... Freedom is precious - treasure it...and see through old 's lies! I'm so sorry for all of the losses in your life.. _________________
Mary D.
Smoke-free one day at a time!
Worry doesn't help tomorrow's troubles, but it does ruin today's happiness! |
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kevin Site Admin
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Posted: November 17, 2007 10:44 PM Post subject: |
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strong emotions, whether positive or negative, can be triggers; most of us (to one degree or another) used to smoke to cover up strong emotions, and so strong emotions trigger that response. but we get to choose how to respond to any stimulus, and you made the right choice here.
(((nichole))) _________________
keep choosing life!
kevin
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Patty129
Quit Date: February 18, 2007
Posts: 828 Location: Saginaw, MI
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Posted: November 18, 2007 8:39 AM Post subject: |
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Hi Nichole.....warm thoughts to you and big hugs from my heart.....you have really been through it all this year. I sure hope your dinner was a happy experience for you and that the thoughts of smoking stayed as far away as possible.....You have an awesome quit going, and you have been such a wonderful support to so many of us.....your humor and joy shine through in your posts.....and my hope is that we can offer you the same right back.
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jlynn931
Quit Date: September 22, 2016
Posts: 785 Location: MA
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Posted: November 18, 2007 11:31 AM Post subject: |
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nichole so sorry to hear about your friend's husband. stay strong!
hope you had a great early thanksgiving!
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nichole
Quit Date: April 14, 2007
Posts: 455 Location: So Cal
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Posted: November 18, 2007 12:49 PM Post subject: |
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Thanks, everyone for all the support! No, I did not give in, nor do I have any intention of doing so. I am trying to remember to go back to the basics ... just take the craves (and emotions) as they come. Take them for what they really are. This, too, shall pass...
Thanks again! _________________
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essie662
Quit Date: April 14, 2004
Posts: 3388 Location: MI
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Posted: November 18, 2007 1:55 PM Post subject: |
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Bless you Nicole, you're having a rough week, hang in there! I see your quit day is the same as mine (just different years) so I thought I would let you know that the first batch of holidays after I quit held a lot of triggers. I smoked 42 years so there wasn't much I hadn't done without a cigarette in hand most of my life. I found myself looking for them as I stressed for the holidays. I got through that year and am looking forward to this one. I love being smoke free and you will too. I promise you you'll wonder what you were thinking when next year gets here. Take care of yourself, Nicole and pop in whenever you need a friend! _________________
Essie
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Lady
Quit Date: July 1, 2005
Posts: 378 Location: Georgia
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Posted: November 19, 2007 8:40 AM Post subject: |
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Nicole,
No matter how hard things may seem, don't give in and don't give up. Deep breaths, posting, mints, candy, gum and all the other things you used in the beginning still work. It takes time to learn to handle "life" without the crutch but in time we do learn.
I hope you enjoyed your turkey and that all was well.
Lady _________________
I cannot change the past, but the future is waiting for me. |
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daggy12
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Posted: November 19, 2007 2:01 PM Post subject: |
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Nicole,
Im so sorry Hugs to you and your friends family. _________________
Life can only be "understood" by looking backward, but must be "lived" by looking forward.
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Barbara K.
Quit Date: December 23, 2004
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Posted: November 22, 2007 9:23 PM Post subject: |
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Nicole,
How was today? I hope you had more joy than sorrow.
I am proud of you for facing the nicodemon and resisting him. _________________
Obstacles don't have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don't turn arouind and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it.
Blessings,
Barbara K. |
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